I don’t have a lot of friends. That sounds awful, but what I mean is I’m more of a person to have half a dozen super tight friends than fifty acquaintences. Part of the reason for this, I believe, is my unique personality. Most teen girls are more concerned with talking about the latest music and hottest parties, rather than how annoying the canon pairings in Harry Potter are. If tumblr was a school, I’d fit right in, but as far as it goes, my interests leave me sidelined in conversation with the general population. My mum is going to read this, and most likely email me saying that I shouldn’t get so obsessed with things, and the best way to get ahead in life is to know a little bit about everything so you can get on with everyone, and believe me, I’ve heard it a million times before. The funny thing is, no matter where I go, I generally manage to find someone who is as crazy for the things I love as I am. We all know toong and quack are at the core of most of my obsessions, but some of my other closest friends, who I’ve met at random things like music camp, all love them too. Take, for instance, my recently attended language camp. I was chatting away to some people and we got onto the subject of musicals. I uhmmed and ahhed for a while, before deciding to take the plunge and mention AVPM/AVPS, knowing that they could very well walk off at the weirdness of my revelation. I hadn’t said more than ‘well, there’s this Harry Potter musical on youtube…’ when one of the girls cut in with ‘A Very Potter Musical?! OMG I LOVE THAT!’ and as we kept chatting, we discovered we both also loved everything disney and dr who. A definite friendship was cemented right then and there (she literally just facebook IMed me saying ‘I wish I was a Hufflepuff, I can’t FIND this sheet of paper I need. Such a win.) . Another girl at camp was also so cool she had a time turner necklace, and we talked about the epilogue of DH for literally an hour.
I think the thing is, when you’re into the kinds of things I am, you know you’re in the minority, so when you find other Totally Awesome beings, you know you have to stick together. I guess you could say we all have slight Hufflepuff qualities as we posses the ability to FIND each other and create lifelong friendships in which it’s totally acceptable to start singing songs from Mulan or Aladdin in public places, debating which ship is the best (Drarry, Dramione or Sirius/Lupin, of course) is an assumed part of regular conversation and knowing way too much about Starkids isn’t considered creepy at all (ok; it is, but there’s safety in creepy numbers).
But then, sometimes the unthinkable happens, and you find yourself in a situation where you’re the only one of your kind. Where everyone else likes techno music, playing sport and don’t even know who the canon couples in HP are, let alone have opinions on ships. For the next five months, I will be in this position. My mum, still reading this, will nod her head at this statement, and continuing her email will say “honey, it will do you good. Sometimes others find your obsessions a bit much, so maybe when you come home, they will have toned down a bit and you will feel comfortable around different kinds of people”.
I understand where she’s coming from, and I do believe that will be one of the main lessons I learn on this exchange. Having to be around people who don’t share my interests, and in all reality, have interests on the other side of the spectrum to me, will do me a lot more good than harm, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the short term. I know I’m not always going to be lucky enough to be surrounded by people as obsessed with things as I am. I know I’m going to have to work, study and possibly live with people who have no interest whatsoever in Harry Potter, Disney or even *gasp* magazines. These next five months will prepare me for that… Prepare me for The Real World. It’s going to be awkward at first – revealing my love for the Jonas Brothers generally doesn’t go down exceedingly well – but creating friendships which span outside my narrow range of likes and dislikes can only be beneficial for my future.
While my parent’s secret desire for me to come home with a less intense passion for certain things isn’t exactly going to happen, I do believe I will learn about other people’s interests, which is something I’ve well, neglected to do, for most of my life. Either that or I’ll convert all the Frenchies into Disney-Starkid-SciFi-Harry Potter fans… A girl can dream, you know.
frangipani princess xoxo