Does Size Matter

Have you ever noticed that in tv shows, books and movies, all forms of pop-culture really, there are never big groups of friends? In more cases than not, the main characters hang in a group of three, usually comprised of two girls and a guy (or two guys and a girl).
For example:
Hannah Montana – Miley, Lily and Oliver

iCarly – Carly, Sam and Freddie
Unfabulous – Addie and two best friends that I can’t remember the name of
Ned’s Declassified School Survival Guide – Ned and two best friends that I can’t remember the names of
Harry Potter – Harry, Ron and Hermione
Lizzie Mcguire – Lizzie, Gordo and Miranda
Being Indie – Indie and two best friends that I don’t know the name of ‘cos I’ve only watched it once
Dreaming Of Amelia/All Other Books In That Companion Series – Em, Cassie and Lydia
See what I mean?
And if they’re not hanging out in groups of three, they just chill with one best friend, like Alex and Harper in WOWP. You never see big groups of friends chilling, which seems to be all you see in real life. Don’t get me wrong, big groups aren’t necessarily bad, but there just seems to be so much more, i dunno, intimacy and tightness between smaller groups.  You get to know each other so well, and do things that are impossible in a larger group. Also, in a larger group you’re always going to have your favourites anyway, so why not just break off. At my last school I was in a group of five girls from my year, but lots of other randoms from other year as well, and it wasn’t too bad, but at my new school the group I’m sitting with is freaking massive. I’m talking I haven’t even met half of them yet, and I’ve met at least ten or fifteen. It’s not so bad, it just well, as I mentioned before, seems to lack closeness.
I would happily go about life just hanging with one or two best friends (and having lots of others that I don’t sit with), but maybe that’s just me. Do you prefer large or small friendship circles?

frangipani princess xoxo

11 thoughts on “Does Size Matter

  1. i totally get what your saying.with larger groups you don't really get to know and talk with everyone, but with smaller more one on one groups you can give your full undivided attention to those people, and they can do the same to you.rather than just being ignored :I

  2. At school we have a group of about 10 girls and sometimes some boys come and talk. Sometimes we break up into smaller groups and do different things, but we are a close bunch of friends. xx

  3. I thought I'd comment on this because I had thought the exact same thing a few days ago when I tried to write a novel with six main characters. The thing is, it's difficult to keep track of all the characters and all, making small groups easier to write about. But in reality, I tend to like both small and large groups. Small because everyone is usually closer, but large because you have lots of people to go to in different situations.

  4. well i disagree. smaller groups are nice but when your having a fight, where do you go? and when your mates are away, who do you sit with? people in smaller groups are more likely to cut themselves off from the rest of the year as they rarely socilalise outside of their few besties. Just because youre in a large circle of friends does not in any way mean that you are not close to each and every one of them. Large groups often have little groups inside them but the fact that everyone is together in one big group makes parties, conversations and school in general a whole lot more fun! here's a quick question, if youre not happy in this big group at your new school why dont you change to a smaller group? or you could try to meet more people in your larger group and you might realise that big groups arent so bad after all 🙂

  5. That girl has a good point.. I mean, I like having a few best friends but I would much rather be in a big group! I guess it depends how big it is though.. But I find that if you have a really large grade then it's fine to be in a big group. I love my group, we always have so much fun and we get along so well and even though it is fairly big, we are all really close 🙂 It makes me feel good to know that even if I have a fight with my best friends, I'll always have heaps of other good friends who I know will be there for me 🙂 Oh, AND another benifit of being in a massive group: 30+ more party-invites!! I mean, come on, who wouldn't say no to that?! So yeah, basically I just wanna say that although having one or two best friends is great, I would sooo much prefer to be in a big group with lots of awesome friends, parties and truck-loads of fun and laughs 😀

  6. Wow, i would give anything to sit with that group at lunch. Everything they do seems like fun and theyre always really loud and happy.Your so lucky they just accepted you right away.xx

  7. I'm part of a big group, like we have heaps more people now. A lot of the time the year nine girls go chill around the corner so it's us and the year 8 boys. Yeah, we;re so cool chillin with year eight boys. The point was we have little groups inside our big group.Xoxo.. Toongen..

  8. Theres the big group and then it breaks off into 2s or 3s. That is good…I've always thought it was kind of strange(by strange I mean I don't understand it) how people can have 6 equal best friends…I'd rather know I can trust my one best friend solely with my life then then just merely trust a group of girls.

  9. I'm pretty sure that television and movie friendship groups are kept at quite a small size to reduce the level of complexity of the programme. I seem to recall that various books turned into television programmes and movies have reduced the number of characters to allow for concentrated character development rather than less complex characters and more complex stories.I was in a big group at high school … but now I have lots of little groups. I like my little groups!!! I also love the larger ones but transcending groups is probably better than remaining in one.

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